Vintage Kink

We are in a 1950s inspired Head of Head of Household dynamic where Master’s the breadwinner and I stay home. He holds the purse strings and makes all the big decisions. I’m concerned with household skills, and keeping him happy. He Takes care of everything outside of the house and I take care of everything inside of the house. The Master slave part is intact in our Head of Household, but we get that without relying on scenes, bondage play or pain so the “fun stuff” like bondage, pain and play are just sort of the way we always have sex. It’s not a special occasion and I don’t rely on it to provide me with a passage into my slave head space. For me, scrubbing floors can do that more effectively and not because of any humiliation aspect, but because it is service that I provide for the man who owns me.

What’s special to us is what most BDSM practitioners call “the mundane” This everyday energy that flows in our home is what our dynamic thrives on. That’s what seals our dynamic so while many D/s M/s couples have to engage in BDSM type play and protocol to achieve the “head space” “scene space” “slave or sub space” etc that they need to asserting their roles, we’re always asserting our roles 24/7 because our roles are very natural parts of our every day life. So folks who say “you can’t be Master and slave ALL the time.” are wrong in our case. We absolutely can. Our dynamic allows it.

I can call him Mr. Last Name in public because it is still respectful and doesn’t draw any attention. I can defer to him in all matters and it just seems that I am quite polite. I do this with people who are not our very close friends. “Are you going to the insert event name here?” I’m never looked at strangely if I say “Well, I’ll have to ask Mr. LastName if he has any plans that night”. I can refer to him with reverence and no one is the wiser. He uses diminutives when talking about me and no one catches on. It sounds normal to the world. To us it’s kink. We’re able to be almost fully immersed in our dynamic all the time.

Having a dynamic where the “mundane” IS the kink means we can more actively and openly explore our kink even around non kinky people and the most the world sees is “wow, she’s a great housewife AND she’s quite intelligent” or “He’s a lucky man to have a wife who caters to him and they seem to love each other so much.

So that’s kind of how it goes in a nutshell and sort of why we love it.